You can't expect to bypass the anti-virus software so that leaves two options:
- Persuade the AV vendors that your DLL is clean and get them to update their signatures.
- Change your DLL sufficiently so that it does not fall foul of the scanners. That's going to require trial and error I guess.
In a previous question you asked how to download a DLL file to memory and then load it from memory rather than a file. I expect most good anti-virus software would regard any software that does that as being malware.
If I were you I would download to a temporary file and use the officially supported LoadLibrary to load the code. The AV software may be more lenient to that. If you are not prepared to do that then your software probably is malware in my eyes, even if you don't mean harm. Even if you do that, downloading and executing DLLs from the internet without the user's explicit consent is verging on malware in anyone's eyes.
Let's put it another way. I would never let this program of yours run on my machine and I would be pleased when my AV software flagged it.