Catch the reload event in your application and terminate the child process before you exit.
If that doesn't work, you probably have a bug in your design. Try to fix that bug. Really. I mean it.
A workaround is to write the PID into a text file. When you start, read the text file, check if this is the correct process and then kill it.
Without the check, you might be killing a perfectly valid process which was created by someone else. My reasoning is like so: You can't kill the process when you reload. That means you can't delete the text file either. So the PID file will always exist. Eventually, you will kill the wrong process. That will happen once per year. It will happen the first time six months after you left/changed job/etc. Nobody will understand what is going on because it's almost impossible to reproduce.