Have you tried a testing engine like regexpal (there are others available also) I frequently use this to test various strings against expressions to make sure they are behaving as expected.
My understanding is that in this case the : is not acting alone it is acting in conjunction with the ?
The ? in this circumstance does not mean Preceding zero or one times it is a modifier meaning give this group a new meaning which in conjunction with the modifier : turn off capture means you want this to be a non capturing group expression.
The effect that this has is that when placing part of an expression inside () it by default causes capture but ?: switches this off.
Thus (?:[-\s]?\d) becomes a non capturing group expression.
Note captured groups are used with back references and most regex engines support up to 9 back references.
So removing capture speeds up the matching process and allows you to elect not to refer back to that group saving one of your 9 references for a group that you really do want to refer back to.