The previous answer didn't work for me. But if your OS is Windows, I only found one way to significantly decrease the amount of time it takes to open my remote project and hopefully it will work for you.
- Open Programs and Features.
- Select Turn Windows features on or off.
- Uncheck Remote Differential Compression.

Beyond disabling that, depending on the size of your project, netbeans indexes your project during each launch in order to track changes that have been made. Application modules are also cached which causes a further delay as well.
One more thing you can try which may help if your project or netbeans version has significantly changed, and was recommended in the comments above, is to clear the cache.
You can either rename the folder, or delete it (netbeans will recreate it).
Paths: http://wiki.netbeans.org/FaqWhatIsUserdir