Two questions here, really.
1st one: haptic feedback / control vibration on iOS / custom iOS patterns
No, it can't be done, even in the new Apple Watch without Jailbreaking your phone. You can have a look at this keyboard mod (needs Jailbreak). Here you have some code but it needs Jailbreaking your phone.
If you need to alert your users I recommend just playing the default vibration inside a while. Sleep the current thread for 1 sec, then vibrate again until some boolean flag changes. Objective-C Pseudocode:
while (!endVibrationAlert) {
AudioServicesPlaySystemSound(kSystemSoundID_Vibrate);
[NSThread sleepForTimeInterval:1];
}
// when user touches some button to dismiss alert
self.endVibrationAlert = true;
2nd one: never ever try to bypass Apple's reviewing system. Abide by the rules. For your 1st version, maybe it passes. Then, in the next update your App can get rejected.