To put it simply no, there is no way to do this without a central sever.
If you want to do this you simply need one or more central servers, whether by dynamic dns or not. The clients need a method to discover where they should connect to, and the only truly sensible way to do this is with your own server, in the simplest scenario it only needs to send an IP address in response.
Virtual severs can be had for around $15/month, which IMO is considerably cheaper than trying to use or abuse someone else's bandwidth.
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To put it simply, there is another way, as follows.
Upon reflection I think what I'd do is to designate a set of peers as cluster controllers and use a dynamic DNS service to allow other peers to discover the cluster controllers.
Choose a dynamic DNS provider I'll call it myc.ath.cx (I Use http://www.dyndns.com/).
Each peer has to be capable of becoming a cluster controller. A cluster controller will contain a list of all the other peers connected.
When a peer is started it looks up myc.ath.cx and attempts to connect. If connection cannot be made within a period, say 30 seconds, it takes over the registration of the DNS entry.
Any peer wishing to discover other peers can simply query myc.ath.cx and a list will be provided
All peers are responsible for periodically downloading the list of peers, in case they need to cluster controller.
The cluster controller will periodically query the DNS entry - if has changed from it's IP address then it knows that it is no longer the cluster controller - so it will contact the cluster controller that currently has the DNS entry and provide it's list of known hosts.
The cluster controller will periodically contact hosts on the list to ensure that they are still valid.