This is a work around instead of a direct answer to your question, but I've found myself using wrappers.proto optional values and then setting the default value myself programatically when I absolutely must know if this was a default value or a value that was explicitly set.
Not optimal that your code has to enforce the value instead of the generated code itself, but if you own both sides, at least it's a viable alternative versus having no idea if the value was the default or explicity set as such, especially when looking at a bool set to false.
I am unclear how this affects bytes on the wire. For the instances where I've used it, message length was not a design constraint.
Proto File
import "google/protobuf/wrappers.proto";
google.protobuf.BoolValue optional_bool = 1;
Java code
//load or receive message here
if( !message.hasOptionalBool() )
message.setOptionalBool( BoolValue.newBuilder().setValue( true ) );