The following will delete all rows that are not themselves parents. If the table is big and there's no index on ParentCommentID, it might take a while to run...
DELETE Comment
from Comment co
where not exists (-- Correlated subquery
select 1
from Comment
where ParentCommentID = co.ID)
If the table is truly large, a big delete can do bad things to your system, such as locking the table and bloating the transaction log file. The following will limit just how many rows will be deleted:
DELETE top (1000) Comment -- (1000 is not very many)
from Comment co
where not exists (-- Correlated subquery
select 1
from Comment
where ParentCommentID = co.ID)
As deleting some but not all might not be so useful, here's a looping structure that will keep going until everything's gone:
DECLARE @Done int = 1
--BEGIN TRANSACTION
WHILE @Done > 0
BEGIN
-- Loop until nothing left to delete
DELETE top (1000) Comment
from Comment co
where not exists (-- Correlated subquery
select 1
from Comment
where ParentCommentID = co.ID)
SET @Done = @@Rowcount
END
--ROLLBACK
This last, of course, is dangerous (note the begin/end transaction used for testing!) You'll want WHERE
clauses to limit what gets deleted, and something or to ensure you don't somehow hit an infinite loop--all details that depend on your data and circumstances.