This should do it.
DECLARE @str NVARCHAR(MAX)
, @Delim NVARCHAR(255)
SELECT @str = 'cherry,mango,peach,apple'
SELECT @Delim = ','
CREATE TABLE #Fruits ( Fruit VARCHAR(255) )
INSERT INTO #Fruits
( Fruit )
VALUES ( 'cherry' ),
( 'Mango' ),
( 'Apple' ) ,
( 'Banana' )
;WITH lv0 AS (SELECT 0 g UNION ALL SELECT 0)
,lv1 AS (SELECT 0 g FROM lv0 a CROSS JOIN lv0 b) -- 4
,lv2 AS (SELECT 0 g FROM lv1 a CROSS JOIN lv1 b) -- 16
,lv3 AS (SELECT 0 g FROM lv2 a CROSS JOIN lv2 b) -- 256
,lv4 AS (SELECT 0 g FROM lv3 a CROSS JOIN lv3 b) -- 65,536
,lv5 AS (SELECT 0 g FROM lv4 a CROSS JOIN lv4 b) -- 4,294,967,296
,Tally_CTE (n) AS (SELECT ROW_NUMBER() OVER (ORDER BY (SELECT NULL)) FROM lv5)
SELECT SUBSTRING(@str, N, CHARINDEX(@Delim, @str + @Delim, N) - N) AS Item
INTO #StrTable
FROM Tally_CTE
WHERE N BETWEEN 1 AND DATALENGTH(@str) + DATALENGTH(@Delim)
AND SUBSTRING(@Delim + @str, N, LEN(@Delim)) = @Delim;
--#############################################################################
-- in both
--#############################################################################
SELECT *
FROM #Fruits F
JOIN #StrTable ST ON F.Fruit = ST.Item
--#############################################################################
-- in table but not string
--#############################################################################
SELECT *
FROM #Fruits F
LEFT JOIN #StrTable ST ON ST.Item = F.Fruit
WHERE ST.Item IS NULL
--#############################################################################
-- in string but not table
--#############################################################################
SELECT *
FROM #StrTable ST
LEFT JOIN #Fruits F ON ST.Item = F.Fruit
WHERE F.Fruit IS NULL
GO
DROP TABLE #Fruits
DROP TABLE #StrTable