What you need to do is link all of your request with one master deferred object and register all of your callbacks on its promise. The master deferred object would need to listen to the individual requests and resolve accordingly. The simplest way to achieve this would be to define all of the deferred objects up front to avoid the chicken and egg problem:
var d1 = $.Deferred();
var d2 = $.Deferred();
var def = $.when(d1, d2);
def.done(function() {
alert(1);
});
setTimeout(function() {
d1.resolve();
}, 3000);
def.done(function() {
alert(2);
});
setTimeout(function() {
d2.resolve();
}, 1000);
Fiddle: http://jsfiddle.net/pVVad/
Changing the order of deferred objects definitions is possible but it would make the example much more complicated.