I hope I understood you right. Unfortunately, I have no experience with Ipads. If they "understand" js events like onMouseOver, this could work.
Idea #1:
<a href="index.html"
onmouseover="Over(this)"
onmouseout ="Out(this)"
onmousedown="Down(this)"
onclick = "Click(this); return true">link</a>
These 4 functions correspond to 4 handlers above.
function Over(Link) // called by onmouseover event
{
Link.className = "Over";
}
function Out(Link) // called by onmouseout event
{
Link.className = "Out";
}
function Down(Link) // called by onmousedown event
{
Link.className = "Down";
}
function Click(Link) // called by onclick event
{
Link.className = "Click";
}
classes in CSS:
a{}
a.Over{}
a.Out{}
a.Down{}
a.Click{}
Idea #2:
Just make regular links and links which are hovered look the same.
a.myClass1:link{color: black; text-decoration:none;}
a.myClass1:visited{// something different}
a.myClass1:hover{color: black; text-decoration:none;}
a.myClass1:active{// something different
}