I would suggest a wrapper which protects the Hash
with a read-write lock. I couldn't find a pre-built Ruby read-write lock implementation (of course JRuby users can use java.util.concurrent.ReentrantReadWriteLock), so I built one. You can see it at:
https://github.com/alexdowad/showcase/blob/master/ruby-threads/read_write_lock.rb
Me and two other people have tested it on MRI 1.9.2, MRI 1.9.3, and JRuby. It seems to be working correctly (though I still want to do more thorough testing). It has a built-in test script; if you have a multi-core machine, please download, try running it, and let me know the results! As far as performance goes, it trounces Mutex in situations with a read bias. Even in situations with 80-90% writes, it still seems a bit faster than using a Mutex.
I am also planning to do a Ruby port of Java's ConcurrentHashMap.