I have a table of member-to-member connections. The schema is member_id, friend_id, is_active. I want to build a list of member connections of people who are friends of friends. I'm not really sure how to tackle the query, let alone in a semi-optimized way.
The table above works in a manner where the member_id and friend_id are essentially the same thing on another table. In my system, these id's are generally referred to as member_id except on this one table. For example, let's say my member_id is 21. My number can be on an infinite amount of other rows as either the member_id or the friend_id it's either based on who initiated the actual friendship request originally, that and I didn't want redundant data where I'd have dupe rows to basically do the same thing.
I'd like to have a query where I can not only establish a level of degree (think LinkedIn) but I can also establish how many mutual friends one person may have that's being displayed (think Facebook). The x factor here is the is_active column I mentioned earlier. This column could be 0 or 1. It's a simple tinyint column that acts as a on/off switch. Any friend connections with a 1 would be an active friendship whereas 0 is pending. I need to base this query off my active friends and their active friends and so on. Where none of the active friends my friends have are active friends of mine.
How can I construct a query like this (even if I can't show the level of separation and only get a mutual count)? Right now, I can sort of think of something but it involves query after query some nested in loops, and yea, I just can't picture that being anything good for my servers' overall performance or health over time.